Has there been a time when you expected an apology? It could be because you were hurt, misunderstood, manipulated, or misjudged, or anything else.
While dusting my blog, and thinking about the year that changed me drastically, in myriad ways. I must confess, that I have had the expectation too! To receive an apology from people who I thought mattered to me.
But recently it has dawned upon me that no longer I crave for that apology, of receiving a response so things normalizes, or of apologies that no longer have souls. No, I am fine without them.
I don't really need to feed my soul with words from others, knowing it means another chance to sabotage my peace, most of the times. I am now independent from this bond.
However, I do feel getting a heartfelt apology is great but you don't really need it, to feel better, to move forward, or even to forgive. It's nice to have someone say that to you, but it's okay if it's not said too.
So today, do ask yourself, do you really need that apology?
An apology should always be about mending relationships, so sincere apologies are important and needed for a relationship. Coerced apologies are more challenging. Parents must teach children to regret bad behaviors and restore relationships, but the apologies I dislike most are those from students forced to say, “I’m sorry.” I feel for the kid who isn’t sorry or regretful. —Glenda Funk
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"Real" apologies may be helpful to both parties but the fake and insincere ones ones are a waste of breath, time and energy!
I love this! You handle language beautifully, like with "dusting" your blog. What you wrote about depending upon the words of others providing an opportunity for them to sabotage your peace really resonated with me. That's powerful.
I often feel like I know an apology is heartfelt when I see the change- then the words have meaning. Welcome to the slicing life! Your reflections have me thinking.
Erika
Great reflection. Especially liked: "I don't really need to feed my soul with words from others, knowing it means another chance to sabotage my peace, most of the times. I am now independent from this bond."